I would love to have a word with the person who invented the text message.
No other communication method has caused more confusion and mishaps in the dating process.
Text messages are easy, casual and passive-aggressive. They allow us to communicate quietly and surreptitiously nearly anywhere, in the grocery aisle, at work, while out and about with friends (or with a significant other). Texts are devoid of emotional inflections conveyed by voice. But texts allow the sender to create an emotional reaction in the recipient.
I went on a nice first-meet "date" with a man from Match last week. Four days passed and his efforts to communicate have been limited to "how's your week going" and "have a good day" texts, with no move to secure another date. He is, as he surely believes, showing "interest" and therefore keeping me on the hook while he evaluates other options. Because I understand the text game, I am wise to his strategy. I responded pleasantly to his two texts, but my expectations are low. Every successful dating experience I have had has involved a guy following up promptly (no later than 3 days later) and asking me out. I am fully understanding and supportive of dating other people through the first several dates, which I certainly am. But just because you are still have other hooks in the water does not mean you should leave someone hanging on the line.
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